Struggles

Try a little tenderness

“I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and doggone it, people like me”

We’ve all at one time or another been too hard on ourselves and need a little Stuart Smalley-style affirmation.

I never live up to the romanticized version of myself in which I am a size 10, never forget birthdays, live an MS-free life, make bread from scratch, and send out handmade “just because” notes.

Instead, I am the girl who uses safety pins to “fix” the hem on my dress pants, puts food-encrusted dishes straight in the dishwasher without rinsing first, and has managed to let slip the birthdays of most of my family and friends because I haven’t adopted a surefire calendar system. What? We’ve only been using the Gregorian calendar for 500 years.

And most days I don’t even floss.

I know. Enfant terrible.

But maybe, just maybe, I should be cutting myself some slack. I have a study to back me up on this.

They call it self-compassion.

It makes sense to give yourself a big old bear hug when you really need it. We already try take care of ourselves physically. Why not emotionally?

Take the test to see how you rank in showing yourself some love.

Apparently, I need to brush up on my self-compassion, because I think I failed the test.

But, because I’m learning here, I won’t beat myself up over it.

 

2 thoughts on “Try a little tenderness”

  1. Most days I don’t floss either.

    But I’m going to follow your lead and try to cut myself some slack. For the flossing, and other things.

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